I think you’ve inspired me to continue on… it’s been a long time, but I continue to work on being kind to myself. For years I would beat myself up – mentally – for all the crap I screwed up in my life. My life is actually really pretty good now and I have to be grateful for all I have – family, a house, my husband is employed even during this nasty economy.

I joined an Adult ADD support group and it’s been wonderful – better than 1 on 1 therapy for me. I think it’s the whole “strength in numbers” theory. I don’t feel alone anymore in my struggles. I found a safe place where I feel like I finally fit in. I’ve never felt that way about any group I’ve been in my whole life.

I remember when I was pregnant with my first child, I would often think “what in the world am I doing… I can barely keep my head above water with my own stuff, how am I going to handle a baby too”… but somehow having a child has opened my eyes up to the fact that I don’t need to worry so much about what others are thinking because my kids are my priority.

good luck to you – keep coming back.

I hope you will continue your blog some time, as I have read all of it and admire your strenght and have found lots of good advice, will also check out many of the books you have recommended.

I am so fucked up that I cant gather the courage to get pregnant even though I am in a loving relation on 11th year and turning 40, so its liike now or never………

Keep up keeping up – when the going gets tough, the tough gets going, hope to hear more from you

Regardless, I do have to agree with others that there is some “facadeness” going on. I mean, we really never know what is going on in other peoples’ lives.

For NTs that are our friends or in our lives that we know and can talk to, we may be able to get an idea of what is going on in their lives but in a lot of ways, they will probably going through similar things.

I feel when I do talk to the NTs I know, I do a lot of “comparing” and I still think I just don’t measure up. That may be my mentalness or my own feelings of crap about myself. My own “low self-esteem” or self-worth. Both?

However, on occasion, I have heard some of them say things like: “Oh, I just couldn’t be bothered to shower today…” which makes me think of some problems we can face like self-care.

So, you never really know what other people have to face in their lives and it really isn’t worth “comparing.”

We just have to do the best we can, keep trying…that’s all. Good days, bad days but no one else out there is “better” than us. It’s hard to see it at times but really, we’re all human.